I’ve been putting this off for over a
year, but I finally feel like maybe it’s safe to post it now.
Kyle Dempster Studios (KDS or Kyle from here on) has always
been garbage. He’s toxic as hell. He’s incredibly immature. He threatens people
with unleashing his ‘fam’ upon them. (He has – or had – a dedicated fanbase
that was OBSESSED with carrying out his deranged desires. They’ve been doxxing critics,
or coming very close to it, that whole time.) Not only has he been toxic, but his followers include[d] Gina Bruno, community manager for The Elder Scrolls Online. During one of these streams, she encouraged him to publicly release information about my other guild. He was streaming as she was texting him.
He's come dangerously close to doxxing other community members with whom he had a disagreement. He made a habit of silencing dissenters by threatening them. He was verbally abusive to everyone in his inner circle. And the Zenimax team should have been aware of this before making him part of their Stream Team for ESO, because it had already occurred during public streams by that point. There is no reason why they should have legitimized his petty, gross behavior, but they did.
Here's what he did that finally got him banned:
This tweet sums it up succinctly (albeit with a spelling error in KDS's name).
Last year, in fact, almost exactly a year before he pulled this specific incident of doxxing (including at least one minor), this happened to me and my guild:
In case you don't play The Elder Scrolls Online, all guilds of a certain size have a guild store. A guild trader is an NPC that guild leaders bid on in order to have a kiosk where people from other guilds can purchase the items in the guild store. Guild traders are highly sought after and location is generally competitive and a matter of prestige. Usually, one guild will hold onto a guild trader for as long as possible, once they find a decent location that they can afford. Guild trader bidding is blind, meaning you don't know how much other people are bidding before you place yours. Because of this, traders can be "sniped". Sometimes, this happens because members of one guild tell members of another guild how much their trader cost. Most guilds keep this info on lockdown, only letting a select few members have access to that information because it's so valuable. Guild traders last for a week, at which point guilds have to bid again and hope they get to keep them.
The following screenshots were taken from Discord. They show my guild leader talking to KDS about the abovementioned source of "drama" (which really wasn't even that dramatic, or rather wouldn't have been had it been discussed between two rational, mature adults).
On top of all the other problematic shit he said, notice how she pointed out at the very beginning that she was the guild master, yet he continued to belittle her and, in the end, said: "if you care to put me directly in touch with you [sic] guild leader". It's almost as if he's always had issues with women. I know he (during at least one of the streams that I watched) used the term "meat curtains" and other derogatory phrases meant to demean women and our bodies. He's just utter garbage and he always has been.
As a guild leader, Kyle only paid attention to sycophants who could boost his ego. He had no idea what actual leadership should look like. He only wanted attention and praise, and anything less than that was incompatible with his ego. He couldn't handle any criticism and threatened to doxx anyone who offered any kind of critique. He did this more than once that I saw. He kept his officers on short leashes and had no concept of mutual respect. He wanted worshippers and, somehow, he got them.
As a person, he was capable of being humorous, but it was almost always at the expense of someone else, usually marginalized people. Despite claiming to be a "leader" of the LGBTQ+ gaming community, he never made anyone who was not his particular flavor of Queer feel welcomed, and then only if they offered unquestioning obedience. People like me, who identify as Queer/bi/pan, were outcasts within our own "community", and he said on several occasions that we shouldn't even identify as Queer because it offended him.
I was completely unsurprised when I heard that he had been banned and why; what surprised me was that it had taken a year for him to fuck up that badly. It took the community more than a year to see him for what he was, and there are still fanboys of his that will continue to defend him to the death. I don't understand it. He was an oddity only in that he was an openly gay Satanist gamer. His attitude and actions are/were toxic. His opinions of women are/were toxic. There's nothing special about a misogynistic, petty, immature gamer. Nothing.
He's completely deserving of his new moniker involving the word "dumpster" to replace his last name, and he deserves worse. That's why I'm writing this, to finally let everyone know how he's always been a piece of shit. I'm still worried he's going to doxx me... I mean, he has no fear of reprisal or accountability now that he's been removed from the Stream Team, so why not abuse and harass anyone who speaks up against him?
It's not like it would be the first or the last time he did that.
So for now, I guess I'm signing off. I'll go back to hiding, but I'm glad to have finally rid myself of this burden. Now, if only the gaming community could collectively remove and get over the burden that is Kyle Dempster.
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